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...God wants your marriage bed to be pure because he cares for you. He wants to protect you from the worst. He wants to provide you with the very best.
But what if two people love each other? What if they know they'll marry someday? Why should they wait?
It may seem that being deeply in love is enough to bond two people together forever. But God says it's not. Marriage is more than just love. It's a promise of lifelong commitment—a promise made in front of others. And those who save sex for marriage are rewarded in two ways:
Honeymoon virginity. Virgins may be nervous on their wedding night. But that's good. You ought to be nervous for the biggest night of your life. For virgins, everything is about to change. They will delve into mysteries they have wondered about most of their lives. They will unfold those mysteries with the person they love more than any other. That's worth celebrating. For the sexually experienced, however, a honeymoon is merely a nice vacation.
You only get one "first time" in life. There is great joy in experiencing it with the person to whom you've just publicly committed your life. But that's only possible if you wait.
Total commitment. When you're used to having sex without total commitment, it may be difficult to understand what totally surrendering your life to another person is all about. If, earlier in your life, sex merely meant, "I'm strongly attracted to you," it's not easy to change your thinking to, "I give myself wholly and exclusively to you."
Virgins are uniquely able to give their total selves to love in a marriage. That's why "the first time" is such a big deal. You are giving your total self to the one great love of your life.